To the people who think I dislike Black men

This is not true at all. I was originally looking for someone who looked like Tyson Beckford. My parents wanted me to find a Black man who was successful, the same social class as us, who had a university education, and who would never mistreat me or make racist remarks. They were worried that I wouldn't be safe with a white man. 

So, I spent most of my late teen years looking for such man. I thought I had found him, but I was wrong. I had a long relationship with a Black man who was university educated, had a good job, and who was perfect on paper. Notwithstanding all of those aspects that my parents were happy about, that man was not my person. We did not get along well, and the 4 and a half years of that relationship were very difficult to me. I stayed in that relationship because I didn't want to disappoint my parents, and because I didn't want to be alone. 

I went on to date whomever I was interested in, after that. I did not specifically look for a Black, White, or purple with green polka dots man. I dated and was in a serious relationship with a white Australian man, dated and became engaged to a Norwegian man, to whom I have been married for almost 30 years.

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